Really great post by Kris over at I'm Not A Girl about being alone (or not). And then I found this site
Quirky Alone, which, wow. There's a name for people like me! Check it out.
A few weeks ago I wrote about being done with a friendship. A friendship that's been a big part of my life for a long time. One of the reasons I've decided to ditch the BF is that I feel she makes no attempt to understand or respect my life choices. Because she's made the safe and predictable ones (married to teenage sweetheart, kids, suburbs) she cannot relate to my life at all. I don't really expect her to truly understand but for chrissake's I expect her to make a freaking effort. I listen to her go on about whatver hubby and domestic crises but whenever I mention some single girl type of problem I get the bum's rush. Sometimes I get the feeling that she thinks her problems are more important (is that the right word?) than mine. Sometimes I get the feeling that she reacts that way because she doesn't have a clue. And doesn't want to because the thought of being on her own scares the shit out of her. My sister is the same way. Never spent a day as an adult living on her own. The thought of that scares the shit out of me.
Going back to the BF, I wonder if I'm analyzing too much? Am I being too sensitive? Too defensive? Maybe. Or maybe it's just time for the friendship to end. Happens all the time. People come and people go. If this was a guy who was blowing me off like that would I be having such a hard time dumping his ass? No. So why should the rules for girl friends be any different?
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Janet had this to say:
I agree that friendships unfortunately do sometimes come to an end. This isnt even always anyone's fault. But if you are thinking about ending the friendship for specific reasons, I would say get those reasons off your chest first. I would think that being a good friend in the first place is part of letting people know where you stand, for better or worse.
Just my 2 cents...- 8:04 PM
